Dealing with Emotional Teenagers

Tip 1 - Don't embarrass them, especially infront of other people

You might not think of it as a big deal but teens can be very sensitive to such situations. If you have to say something stern, do so in private. Don't embarrass them in front of others, and not in front of their friends at all. Once you give them this respect, they will return the favor.

Tip 2 - Calmness counts don't return your child's verbal swordplay with a lashing of your own

Calmness counts. As tempting as it is to return your child's verbal swordplay with a lashing of your own, don't. This just escalates the conflict and closes the door to any productive discussion. Demonstrate that you can disagree with him/her without becoming too disagreeable. If you find yourself in one of those arguments that often leads to a "war of words," point out that disagreements don't have to lead the two of you down that road. Emphasize that it's much easier to.... by Dr. Steven Richfield

Tip 3 - Don't refute their feelings outright

If they express something you should not refute them outright. This can lead them to rebel and 'prove' they are right. Don't push them away like this.

Tip 4 - Don't argue or ask for explanations

The worst thing you can do is to argue with your teen. Arguments only lead to fights and resentment. While you have to tell them what is right and what is wrong, you don't have to make it a courtroom drama.

Tip 5 - Let them make their own decisions

Teens need to feel a sense of independence. If you push them for things or order them around they will become rebellious. Let them make their own choices and suffer their consequences. You can advise and supervise but let them make the final call.

Tip 6 - Give them space and privacy

Teenagers need space and time to themselves to figure things out. They can get very emotional if confronted or suffocated. Just ignore small things and let them figure out stuff on their own. Eventually they will learn from their mistakes.