First Date conversation: Dos and Don'ts

Tip 1 - Don't talk non-stop or dump it all your date

Some people feel the need to exaggerate and talk non-stop to give the other person an impression of friendliness. This isn't a good idea, because it actually shows how self-centered you are. You need to talk as much as you listen. 

Tip 2 - Never ask the other person's age

Regardless of how you met, you should never ask about the other person's age, especially not on the first date. If things go smooth you will get to know more in time. Asking about age etc shows that you are fishing from a list of pre-determined requirements.

Tip 3 - Got any brothers or sisters?

Asking details about sisters could back fire although in general showing the caring side and an interest in her family could get your score better.

Tip 4 - Compliment her if your like her hair, dress, shoes etc - Show her you appreciate it

Most people dress up for first dates and try to make a good impression. If she is well dressed and looks great, has done her hair well or has a nice pair of shoes on, a compliment from you can show her that you appreciate the effort she put into it all. This can also set a great tone for the date and encourage bonding.

Tip 5 - Don't Bring Love into the Conversation on the First Date

A lot of guys think they need to come across as hopeless romantics to woo a girl. But it is simply a bad idea to even talk about love or bring it up during the first date conversation. Don't ask your date what he/she thinks about love or marriage and finding the one. This is about knowing each other and figuring out whether you two can take things ahead.

Focus on being friendly and interested in your date.

Tip 6 - Don't talk or ask about ex partners

The last thing someone wants on a first date is to discuss ex boyfriends or girlfriends. Even if you are curious, just give it a rest till you get to know the other person better.

Tip 7 - Small talk in the start, makes it easier to carry a conversation

Small talk in the start, makes it easier to carry a conversation. 

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Tip 8 - Ask your date about his/her future plans

A good conversation can also be about your and his future plans. Be careful though, this doesn't mean you pry into his personal plans like marriage and kids. This is about professional plans and personal development, like pursuing the dream of becoming an artist etc etc.

Remember though, even if you don't like his/her plans, you should be polite and not criticize or outright dispute them. It's your first date, don't make rash decisions.

Tip 9 - DON'T BE A CHATTERBOX

Do you have pets? How many siblings do have? Where you have traveled to or what books do you love to read? Forget about all these annoying things and counteract by asking your date for some fun. However, this doesn't mean that you ignore something in particular if your date catches your interest and talk upon it.

Tip 10 - Talk about your date's interests like music, movies, politics, sports etc

A safe bet and a good way to have an engaging conversation is to talk about what interests your date. Ask him/her about her music preferences, favorite movies, political views, memorable book reads etc etc. Once you start, new topics will spring up automatically and the conversation will start to flow. Don't just listen though, give your own views as well to make it interesting. I am linking you to some good questions you can ask and talk about.