How to Help the Enabler Helping the Alcoholic

Enabling is a term often used in the context of a relationship with an addict. It might be a drug addict or alcoholic, a gambler, or a compulsive overeater. Enablers, rather than addicts, suffer the effects of the addict’s behavior. Enabling is “removing...
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Many times when family and friends try to help alcoholics, they are actually making it easier for them to continue in the progression of the disease.

If you find your self locked in to playing a role in the alcoholic's life, maybe it's time to call time out and examine the consequences of your actions.

What if the steps you were taking to help a friend or family member through a problem or crisis were actually the very things hurting them most? And, what if the effects of your mistake not only harmed your loved one, but brought pain and consequences to your own life?